How many times have you replayed a scene in your head, each time with a different ending: “should have said this and done this” or “should not have said a word”? I bet at least once in your lifetime. Truth is we often regret what we do (or don’t do) and ponder over the could’ves, should’ves, would’ves. Some move on fairly quickly with little regret, but some take years to recover. Well, it all depends on the depth of your regret, but what I am trying to say is that what you regret may not be something I consider worthy of regret. We are all different; each regretting a different lifestyle choice or career choice.
But why do we regret? Why not fix it as it happens? Why do we hold back our feelings and words?
I am a believer of being in control of our behaviours, not so much our feelings. If you are angry at someone you may not be able to change that feeling towards him, no matter how much you try, until you calm down and look at the picture in a different perspective. But what you can control is how you act. We have control over throwing a vase and cracking his face open (apologies for my graphic imagination), or saying something harsh that will hurt his feelings. You can stop yourself from acting out.
But more often we let our feelings get in the way assuming there is no control and act out. And later… regret!
So, what if we could go back in time and change the way things happened? Would we still regret our decisions? I bet we would, ’cause at the end of the day regretting is easier than accepting our decisions and moving on.